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This chapter offers an overview of selected literature on mindfulness and couple’s therapy. It describes a simple and innovative Meditative Dialogue practice that can help couples to develop compassion and empathy for themselves and for each other as they work to strengthen and heal their relationships from the inside out.
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Lord, S.A. (2017). Beginning with the System: Using Meditative Dialogue to Help Couples Develop Compassion and Empathy for Themselves and for Each Other. In: Northcut, T. (eds) Cultivating Mindfulness in Clinical Social Work. Essential Clinical Social Work Series. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-43842-9_8
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